so for some reason the chatsecure me now shows up with avatar ... alongside my gajim me lmao
You're looking better than ever!
...so, I'm not sure I understand what I see but I assume you did not explicitly set that as your picture? And the handling of multiple devices per user is still kind of all over the place?
I remember the days when I used XMPP as my main IM thing, and once I had it on multiple devices, I reliably missed OTR messages unless we exlicitly agreed which device I was having the chat on, and no continuing on another device!
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