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#actuallyautistic

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Murdoc Addams 🧛🏻:ri: 🇨🇦

Oh, no! I forgot that yesterday was my one year anniversary of when I accepted being autistic. My autistic birthday. My hatching day.

It was about 8 months after a conversation I had had with a friend I reconnected with, and had told me that she thought that I might be autistic. She is autistic and adhd (as I realize that I am now), and we talked for hours about it. By the end of it I still wasn't convinced, but she'd made a good case. The thing that had stuck out the most for me was her describing it as an "interest based personality". That resonated with me hard, since I could see that in many parts of my life. Like how in school how good my grades were was directly proportional to how interesting I found the class (or even individual subjects in class).

So I did the autistic thing and started researching it. I read a book that my friend had recommended. Read websites. Lurked on online communities. Then 8 months later took several tests on embrace-autism.com and that pretty much cinched it for me.

I don't know when I started hanging out here on Mastodon, but I know I did it because I found far more content here about autism than I did on Lemmy (my previous main hang). I know that I joined autistics.life last August, so I've probably been here roughly a year too.

Anyway, it's been a heck of a journey. Found out that all 5 of my IRL friends are also ND (we make two sets of autist-adhd-audhd triads). And I am certainly grateful to and for all the people I've met and talked to on here, this wonderful community. You've helped me so much. :blob_cat_heart:

@actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd #ActuallyAutistic

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The Autistic Innovator :Aro:

The Autistic Innovator is open for author self-publishing submissions again. The royalty rate was 70% back when books were on a separate store, but since everything moved to The Autistic Innovator I've raised it to 90%. The store doesn't need the money so it can be a higher percentage.

I fell very behind on responding to author submissions and adding books to the store. Now that I'm finally on the right ADHD med dose, my brain works again so I'm able to take on this extra project.

Here is the link for more info. I'll update it shortly.

shop.autisticinnovator.com/pag

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The Autistic InnovatorAutistic & Neurodivergent Author Self-PublishingThe Autistic Innovator offers a self-publishing platform for autistic & neurodivergent authors. Customers can purchase their new favorite ebooks and paperback books from the author self-publishing collection and get some of the large variety of items The Autistic Innovator offers in one order. Authors keep their pu
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⚡🔌ℂlaire 𝔻anielle ℂassidy♾️

Well, it's International Asexuality Day, during Autism Acceptance Month.

Maybe if I focus on that I can find the sudden, unexpected skyrocketing touch starvation pain I've been dealing with for a week now kinda really funny, instead of intensely overwhelming and destabilizing, causing me to be really angry about little things like accidentally brushing a friends hand. Which is also a funny state to be in.

*sigh*

#ActuallyAutistic#autismacceptancemonth#AsexualVisibilityDay
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JB 🐎 :neuro:

Today’s Question for #AutismAcceptanceMonth, Day 6: What was an occasion where you felt able to unmask and be yourself around others?

I don’t think I have yet. I don’t think I even know how. Unmasking comes with so many risks that I’ve learned about the hard way.

However… I feel I can reduce the masking when I’m around other kind neurodivergent people (or those with ND traits, doesn’t even matter if someone identifies or not). Only realised this for the first time recently shortly after realising I’m autistic. I disclosed at uni to younger student friends. They just accepted me and my differences, and I did of them and theirs too. Amazing experience.

(Join in by copying the question and starting a new post - you can find all the questions for all the days of April from my first post - the quoted post.)

#ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic

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Alfred Chow - Maker of Things

@levampyre
Yes, then I get distracted and lose count. I try to work out where I was up to, bug give up because it is pointless.

However, I do keep records of mileage, fuel costs, spending, etc. for my car, and that satisfies most of the counting needs.

If only I could do the same with working hours and expenses, and then actually invoice my clients! 😬
I think it is the 'money' aspect. I can't get to grips with work equating to money.

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key jordan-abrams

long. ranting. if you think this is about you and not just a critique it probably is.

just a reminder that not everyone you see not wearing a mask is an asshole. yes, #WearAMask because #CovidIsNotOver is great and the by and large incentive for everyone.

but not all #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic people can do enough densensitisation and exposure therapy and graduated trials to be able to get to the point of wearing a mask. other diagnoses too, certain individuals with PTSD (which I also have). there are, what I am saying, legitimate reasons to not be able to wear a mask.

I was able to adjust to a gaiter during the beginning of the pandemic, when anything was better than nothing. it didn't put pressure on my nose and it wasn't tight over my face. alas, those aren't actually sufcicient.

I can tolerate a paper surgical mask for about 10 to 15 minutes before I'm incredibly distressed, overwhelmed, and going into either meltdown or shutdown depending upon the day.

I can wear a KN95 mask for about five minutes and it still requires me to be medicated with Xanax in order to tolerate the sensation on my face and the trauma memories from last… everything overwhelms me and I end up dissociated and screaming. no matter about whether I'm in my thrift nrrand yes,that's with meds. my be the best I've done with a KN95 is about half an hour or so.

I've tried so hard to mask.

and while I'm in recovery and remission from polysubstance use disorder, Xanax is not the solution.

so take your judgment and shove it back down your throat, or up your ass, or get the fuck away from me because your solutions leave me and mine and people in my situation as acceptable casualties, when in fact wear a mask is meant to protect people like me if enough of the sheeple would actually do it.

in order to have success in your exhortations you need to be a little bit more careful about what your messaging actually is, and who you're targeting, and who is going to actually see it and be impacted by it.

I still go to the absolute farthest place from people who aren't masking. I don't go anywhere if I'm actively sick but Gxd only knows how many times I've actually had COVID since half of the confirmed tests were because I had something I was going to and wanted to exercise precautions; I got it without it being immediately symptomatic.

and I've got long COVID from 3 (or more) asymptomatic infections and one pretty nasty round through it last October. I know the consequences of not masking.

but what I don't have is the economic privilege to stay home. my spouse is disabled too. we need food. we need to go to appointments, and due to medical needs and hearing loss. I need to do things at school. I need to do things with the department of rehabilitation.

so shove your trite bullshit where the sun don't shine.

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ND Dev

@kkarhan
There are some nasty stereotypes of #autism and #ActuallyAutistic people.

The way I see it, stereotypes are a necessary heuristic. We haven't the mental capacity to understand everything or everyone completely, and we always have incomplete information, and so we make approximations and work on the basis of those. Stereotypes, when they're both compassionate and accurate, can be helpful: for example, they enable us to respond to adults differently from the way we respond to children. They warn us that some people are more dangerous than others. I don't think #stereotypes can or will ever go away.

But it's up to us to notice when stereotypes are racist, sexist, ableist or otherwise discriminatory. We must change them promptly and try to make good any damage we've done.

Edit: typo.

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